Most parents sigh at the concept of their child having a tantrum in the middle of a store as they know it will probably happen. Fortunately, Justin Baldoni is here to show us how to remain calm and ride out the grocery-store tantrum storm.
Justin Baldoni is an American actor, director and filmmaker who is known for playing Rafael Solano on Jane the Virgin. He’s also a loving father of two children.
When Baldoni’s daughter Maiya was just two years old, he took her to Whole Foods. At that time, little Maiya had a tantrum on the floor; rather than picking her up, Baldoni and his father chose to stand and watch. Baldoni’s wife quickly captured his reaction to Maiya’s outburst. He later shared that photo on Instagram with the caption “one of my favorite photos ever of me and my dad,” which has since earned over 95,000 likes.
He started his post on June 19, 2017 “I tried to stay off social media yesterday to connect with my family without distraction so I’m posting this today. Emily took this in Whole Foods. It’s now one of my favorite photos ever of me and my dad. Two men, standing together in silence, forever bonded by an unconditional love for both each other and this brand new, raw and pure soul who we would both go to the ends of the earth for.”
Baldoni went on to clarify that his father taught him how to be “comfortable in the uncomfortable,” and that while no parent is perfect, but “one thing my dad taught me is to not parent based on what anyone else thinks.”
His post continued: “My dad always let me feel what I needed to feel, even if it was in public and embarrassing. I don’t remember him ever saying “You’re embarrassing me!” or “Dont cry!” It wasn’t until recently that I realized how paramount that was for my own emotional development. Our children are learning and processing so much information and they don’t know what to do with all of these new feelings that come up. I try to remember to make sure my daughter knows it’s OK that she feels deeply. It’s not embarrassing to me when she throw tantrums in the grocery store, or screams on a plane. I’m her dad…not yours.”
While it’s usual for parents to be frustrated and embarrassed by their children’s tantrums, Baldoni believes that this is unnecessary. It may even go against their goal of having a calmer child.
Baldoni added “Let’s not be embarrassed for our children. It doesn’t reflect on you. In fact.. we should probably be a little more kind and patient with ourselves too. If we got out everything we were feeling and allowed ourselves to throw tantrums and cry when we felt the need to then maybe we’d could also let ourselves feel more joy and happiness. And that is something this world could definitely use a little more of.”
Baldoni did everything right in this case, according to TODAY Tastemaker and child development expert Dr. Deborah Gilboa.
“When kids get overwhelmed, it often leads them to act in ways that make us grown-ups feel at best useless and at worst mortified,” she said.